Very Happy Phil

Happiness is just like health, it’s not just what you do that is important it is also what you don’t do.

I will give you an example; 80% of women who read a women’s fashion magazine for just 3 minutes lowered their self esteem. Comparing their bodies to models bodies was likely the reason.

If fasion is not your thing. The same goes for fitness magazines. They are full of models too. And is business or success interests you, the same goes for comparing ourselves to those with bigger wallets or better businesses.

Your task this week; avoid advertising (TV, magazine, radio and web) and any fashion, Hollywood article or ‘rich and famous’ article. Everything that consciously or subconsciously may have an impact upon you and lower your self esteem, happiness and confidence.

Optional Extra; avoid the news for a week too and get twice the benefit!

Enjoy the silence! Enjoy the time. Do something you enjoy and which give you joy instead!
Have a happy NO MODELS –NO MILLIONAIRS week!

Keep positive!
Phil McNally
Happiness Expert

Remember,
“Happy people have happy habits! Happy people avoid over comparing!”

–Phil McNally, Author & Happiness Expert

PS I am excited to announce that exclusive a workshop for men and women is happening in September in Edinburgh, Aberdeen and Glasgow!

Would you like to live with more passion, less fear, more love, more purpose and more self awareness?!

We all would benefit from therapy. We are all crazy

We are all creatures of habit. Some habits not as effective and beneficial as they could be.

If we were to experience a huge trauma or if we are clinically depressed. I will give you an example; Victoria Pendleton. “I wouldn’t be here (Olympics) now if it wasn’t for Steve (Peters, Psychiatrist). After Athens I got a lot of criticism about being too weak. Steve could see I was deeply unhappy with my performance, because I was not doing it for the right reasons. He taught me to care less about other people and more about myself, to be more assertive. The concepts Steve taught would help four out of five girls in everyday life. If I had known these at 14, I would have been much more happy and less full of teen angst”
Victoria Pendleton, Gold Medalist
“Imagine that inside your head there are 100 light bulbs — 30 red and 70 blue. The red don’t help you at all, the blue bring out the best in you. When you come to me, the reds are on, the blues are turned off. I help you to switch off the reds, switch on the blues, show you how you can do that, and then you’ve got to keep them that way. People will say you have changed, but you haven’t, you’ve just learnt some good mental skills. Vicky Pendleton can flick off her anxiety lights when they light up and switch on the lights that tell her she is a confident young woman.”
- Dr Steve Peters, Psychiatrist, GB Olympic Team, Undergraduate Dean at Sheffield University Medical School

In society today I feel relaxed about acting like an idiot in public …if I’m entertaining a young child!
i have observed most men doing similar and i know im not alone in this. And I am not alone in thinking this. Keith Johnstone (author ‘Impro’) states that people are all innately creative and spontaneous, but self-censor in order to appear sane and safe.

“We all act in predictable ways to fit in with society and avoid looking crazy”
Andy Gibson, Mindapples.org
http://mindapples.org/2008/07/20/acting-sane/

I’ll will tell you a little story; I read a research article that said they found kids as young as 3 years old starting to ‘self sensor’ their emotions to fit in e.g. if they did well they didn’t want to look too happy if their friends didn’t do well. It is all downhill from there are we all grow older and get further and further away from our core being, core personality and our core joy and spontaneous ness